For the mamas of the world

Tonight I watched a show about mothers in the wild, and cried. 

Lionesses tried to protect their babies as a new leader took over the pride and killed all of the cubs so he could start the pack fresh. In the end, the big, strong male won out and the pain was visible on the mama lion's face as her babies were killed. 

After a baby elephant was born, it was immediately surrounded by aunts, cousins, and fellow family members. They encircled the little one for two days while it struggled to gain it's new legs. Not even a bull trying to mount one of the aunties could tear the group of ladies away from this cute, new little one. Eventually, the male pulled a temper tantrum and kicked the baby, to be met with angry grunts and shoves by the gals. He finally gave up (and probably went to watch the hockey game.) Odds are, he didn't get any that night. 

A female lemur gave birth just as her pack was moving on. With her baby too weak to hang onto her underbelly, she was forced to choose between the pack and her new little one. It was clear that choosing the pack meant survival, but as her little one lay there whimpering, she urged him over and over to latch onto her fur. After what seemed like forever, she hesitantly left her baby. Her survival instinct was stronger than her maternal one, but not by much. It was obvious that it took everything that animal had to leave her dying baby behind. 

Finally, I watched in wonder as a mommy orangutan taught her baby how to find termites using a long stick. As the little one watched intently, its mama demonstrated her technique, then handed the stick to her baby to try. With great patience, she did this over and over again, until finally, her baby was successful. They celebrated with squeals and hugs. 

As the program ended, there was a shot of a baby orangutan clinging onto its mother comfortably as she paddled along in a boat in a sanctuary. The final shot was the baby's tiny hand, wrapped around it's mama's finger. 

As my eyes welled up with tears, I realized the message of the show I had initially complained about watching. 

It turns out mamas aren't so different after all.

To all of the mamas in this world and the next, near and far away, in all of your sparkly, shiny, beautiful glory, who would do anything in the world for your babies, who have experienced a love and a bond so deep I can't even begin to imagine - this one's for you. 

Happy Mother's Day.

Dinner conversation

Me: Pop, this chili tastes different...good, but different.

Him: Yeah, I didn't have a spice pack...

Me: So you just played it by ear?

Him: Ya, I went totally balls-to-the-wall. It was crazy.

(Keeps eating nonchalently as I try to stop the spicy hot meal from coming out of my nose.)

Him (looking up and realizing I am in hysterics): What, you never heard that before? You need to get out more.

I beg to differ, Popsie. The entertainment here suits me just fine.

Family vacation

A couple of weeks ago, my Pop, Gilly and I all piled into the car early (and I mean EARLY. 5:30 am early.) and headed west to a little piece of heaven called Sioux Lookout. 

I knew it would be an amazing trip, because we were going to a beautiful place to visit wonderful people. Uncle John and Auntie Teddy's place has become known as Paradise, because that's exactly what it is. There are gift baskets laid out in our individual accommodations, which makes it feel like a resort. A laid back resort where time doesn't exist, and days are measured by mealtimes, cocktail hours, and the sun coming up over the horizon. 
You think I'm exaggerating. But I'm not.

Here's a little snippet of our family road trip, the first in almost 10 years. 

An Easter road trip from Kate McLaren on Vimeo.

Congratulations to Biller, who survived 14 hours in a vehicle with two daughters craving chocolate and prone to the occasional irrational outburst (I'm so BORRREDDDD!!!) in a high pitched, whiny voice. 
Pop, I think it's safe to say that you deserve a medal, but deep down, I think you enjoyed the trip just as much as we did. 

Roomies

Me, after being flicked about a half-dozen times with a dish rag: Dad, grow up.

Him: Nope. Never gonna happen hun. Told ya that many times.

He may have grey hair and arthritis, but definitely still the biggest kid in the family. Including extended.

My nickname ("Memere") becomes clearer all the time.

Itty Bitty Beauties

I remember going to visit my girlfriend Angela when she was pregnant with her daughter, Mikenah. Her and her husband, J.C. were living in a small house, and it was the middle of a heat wave. 

I didn't really know J.C., but I remember being nervous to see Ang. What would she be like, now that she was pregnant? Would she be scared? How would she look? 

As it turned out, it was, always has been, the Ang I knew in high school. Bubbly, funny, laughing. The only thing that was different was that she looked like she had swallowed a beach ball. 

I think my opinion of J.C. was formed that night, when, as the three of us watched TV, he leaned over was whispered sweetly to the bulge under her shirt. I knew then what kind of dad Jay would be, and I was right on the money. 

When Mikenah was born, I remember walking into the hospital room that November day. My eyes welled up with tears at this tiny pink bundle, who just hours ago was warm and cozy in Ang's tummy. As soon as I held her, I felt a connection. 

"I want you to be her god-mother," Ang said, watching me hold her newborn baby a few days later. 

With Mikenah's birth, I became a mother, of sorts, too. 

Through the past three years of Kenah's life, I've moved around, swept in and out of their house intermittently. Even on those short visits, though, I always knew she was special. Creative, feisty, spunky, with an imagination that has no limits. 

In moving back home, I've been able to spend more time with my nieces (the clan grew last July when Ang gave birth to Reesah, the sweetest, happiest baby who is almost never without a smile,) and yesterday, I lay down with Mikenah to rest before her nap time.

"Just relax hun, close your eyes," I say, adjusting myself on the bean bag. 

Mikenah closes her eyes. 

"Now think of something soothing, like a river, or a little waterfall. Maybe a sunny day at Grandma and Grandpas."

Mikenah's eyes open and she looks at me. 

"I'm not thinking about that," she says. 

"Ok, what are you thinking about?" I say, trying to hide a smile. 

"I'm thinking of a superhero," she says. 

"Oh, ok!" I reply, surprised at her answer. "What kind of superhero?" 

"I'm thinking of a kid superhero, who flies and wears sunglasses." 

I've often asked Ang where she comes up with this stuff. Ang seems just as baffled as everyone else. 

I may be a little biased, but my take on her amazing personality is SHE'S JUST THAT SMART. 

These two girls have enriched my life more than anyone can know.

I'd like to say she gets this, right here, the sass and the style and the cool-ness from her Auntie Kate. But really, I had very little to do with her genetic make up. 

My good friend Ang turned 27 yesterday and I think it's safe to say that she has, thus far, accomplished the most out of all of us. Most days, I don't know how she does it. But she does, all the while staying sane, calm, patient. A wonderful mama. 

Happy Birthday, Ang. I'm so proud of you.

Re-branding

Coversation with Pop about my blackberry, after handing it to him to say hi to my sister:

Him: I can't talk on that thing!

Me: Yes you can. It's a phone, Dad.

Him (talking the phone and holding it to his ear like a bomb about to detonate): This is weird. There's no talky-thing! It's like talking into a Toaster Streudle!

Toaster. Streudle. Amazing.

Later on in the night:

Me: Dad, I think the phone line is down.

Him: Well, you'll have to use your waffle.

If this whole retirement thing doesn't work out for him, I think he should seriously consider a job at RIM. In marketing.

Perfect night

I pull into the driveway and honk the horn. Pop is burning brush in the firepit. He looks up and waves, and I get out of the car and haul my bags of groceries into the house. I'm putting the groceries away hurriedly, thinking about what I'm going to wear tonight and about work tomorrow.
"You didn't even say hello to Joe-Bob," says Pop as I rush around the kitchen. "Come look."
I go to the kichen door, and look out. An oversized partridge is pecking away at the birdseed Pop's scattered on the snow.
"Hi, Joe-Bob," I say, smiling. "Oh my god he's fat!" I add, looking more closely.
"Oh ya, he can hardly fly," says Pop, chuckling. "Good thing he has me for a buddy."
Later, before I leave for the night, Pop says "Come outside for a minute."
I follow him onto the back deck. As I walk outside the crisp air hits me, laced with the smell of wood burning. A silver crescent moon is rising in a clear midnight blue sky.
All is quiet, and I listen. All of a sudden, "POP!", a loud crash explodes from the ice. I jump about 10 feet.
I turn my head to listen as more sounds come from another spot on the lake. The ice moans and groans, as if some beast is trapped underneath trying to get out.
"What is it?" I ask.
"It's the ice shifting," explains Pop. "Isn't it neat?"
It is at this point I figure out why I have moved back here.
If this isn't an example of true blue, everyday, natural beauty, I don't know what is.
Eternally lucky is how I'm feeling tonight.
BB